Good News. My friend sent a text stating that his 'roka' has happened. {Roka: Hindi word derived from the root which means, 'to stop / put hold to.' In this context, refers to a ceremony prior to a formal engagement. This is the time both parties stop looking out for a prospective partner}.
Well, I feel so happy for him. There have been so many struggles for him. And in many of them, I can identify. Being a single, uncommitted male is not easy. Contrary to what many may think, life is not a bed of roses.
First, of course are the distant family members who leave no stone unturned in poking the rib, "...so when are you getting married? Its high time." Heck - do girls grow on trees? That I go and pluck them? Then of course, come the so called friends, "...what are you doing? She is such a good girl - the right one for you..." And they go about trying to get you hitched. Then come the last of the lot, "...is everything ok? Hope no alternate preferences?" Well, sounds funny, but when you go through it, it is not.
The point is not about marriage, nor is it about preferences. It is simply about my own dignity as a human being? Am I really incomplete without marriage? No - I don't say that I won't get married; with a right person, I will settle down. But what is this hurry to get hitched?
And if marriage is about a commitment and a relationship, then why is there such a brouhaha about 'conventions'? Is it that we are too scared to question ourselves?
What is the purpose of marriage? From an evolutionary perspective, it is about ensuring perpetuation of species. But talk as we will at a philosophical and psychological level, what is it really about? Is it not about relationship? In building relationship with one, a person builds up a family which in turns builds up the society. To my judgment, a marriage is as much about family as much it is about appreciating the opposite sexuality as projected out and slowly over time finding a manifestation of the same within? For a man, it is about coming to terms with feminity and for a woman, about coming to terms with masculinity?
The individual starts with his / her need first and places it before the society for its fulfillment. In order that a fair process takes place, society builds around that process / transaction a set of contracts, which convey the expectations and over time become conventions. So to my mind, managing a family and thereby society are the contracts; the individual need is to merge with an aspect of self that he/she has not yet found within. Call if found within, unacknowledged, rejected or projected out - whatever it may be. Perhaps this is topic for another enquiry.
But do I not have both the masculine and feminine self within? Is not the purpose of life to integrate both within our self? Not having a partner then is not so much about another person missing in life, but about an aspect of my own self missing.
If I pine for a woman, then does it mean that I am "normal?" Or does it simply a reflection of the unacknowledged and unexplored feminity within? Reverse would be the case for a woman. I recollect Eric Fromm in "The Art of Loving". At one place, he speaks about two people hopelessly falling in love. They talk about it as a sign of true love; but in reality, it is only an expression of the earlier utter loneliness. Can loneliness ever be cured by presence of another?
Or am I confusing being alone with being lonely? The more I see it, the more I realise that I will forever be lonely in life. I can manage not being alone - the social circuit takes care of it. But in my deepest of moments, I am utterly helplessly lonely. My moments of utmost profundity, bliss, deepest agony - all have been with myself. The only communion I had was with my inner self. If this be the experience I have, and nothing could be truer than the experience, then, why is it that at times I still try to not be lonely.
I recollect that on one occasion, I'd written in my journal, "Loneliness is not about not being with someone, it is about not enjoying my own company completely."
While, I do recognise and experience what I write, I also experience at times a desire that this loneliness be wished away. Is this then a question of "understanding the truth of loneliness" vs. the "truth of desire"? What is the issue then? Is it the conflict of understanding of the truth of "what is" with the desire / hope of "what could be"? Perhaps.
As a logical step, understanding 'what is' is about being in the moment; while desire for 'what could be' is about a flight to a place that is away from the moment, from the 'here and now'.
But a question comes to me, "If I were to accept 'what is', then what is the motivation to move forward?" Would not everything be ok and acceptable then? This incidentally is a question not just for the specific issue of relationships, but also for our whole lives? Would it not lead to inactivity (or 'tamas' as they call it?) I ask this, as I am tempted at times. Or have I understood this wrong somewhere?
I have no answer. Am stuck. Food for thought as I push off to sleep. In that moment of utter loneliness, possibilities emerge. Hey - talking of sleep and loneliness therein, why is it that I have a negative connotation of the word 'loneliness'? Is not sleep the most enjoyable thing - for me? So is it the situational and contextual meaning that I give? Which comes from my pain of ''what is not" which in turn comes from a desire for "what could be"?
Circles - all the way. Having written all this, I come to the circle again. I still feel happy for my friend. His text radiated the joy of a heart. And in this moment, he is pure joy. And is joy not about communion with my own self - in its complete loneliness?
I started off with relationship, meandered all the way, and am back to it - relationship. With another query: what indeed is a "relationship"?
Sunday, April 12, 2009
The Daily Muse | Perspectives (contd.) | 27th Mar. '09
Talking of perspectives, here’s some more musings. Albeit random…
Life is full of contradictions; and in those contradictions is hidden some truth. Scarce did I realize that I would be here again penning my angst and emotional state.
Late last night, I got a call from 2 people in my society. It transpires that Wed. night, there was a break-in in 2 flats in our society – my neighbour’s and mine. We have 4 flats on our wing and 2 are unoccupied. While we were away during the day, someone broke in our houses.
I felt stunned – actually not. Mixed emotions; as if a sense of continuity – first the missing phone and then this event. And yet both have similarities. In both cases, there was loss, an acceptance of it and thereafter a mild shock. My friend tells me (he rushed over to the place to figure out things) that nothing material has gone out.
Having said that, I feel a bit naked – it is not about anything material having been taken away, but the feeling of utter loss and helplessness. As if someone has raided. Also a sense of, ‘why not face me directly man? Why this stealth?’ In this, I see perspective – the pain on a theft (or attempted – in this case) is not only of a loss of things, but also a loss of inner innocence and faith.
Yet the question comes, ‘what do I choose?’ Yes, there is pain, there is hurt; but should this lead me to view all with suspicion? Given our hectic work lives, we’ve hardly met each other (we refers to all of us living in the society – almost all of us travel at least 1-2 hours to work). And yet, it was 2 of my society fellows who helped me yesterday. It was my neighbour who I’ve met only twice, who took my friend to the police station to get a clearance for sealing the house on my behalf. Help from all who were not known to me. What goes around, comes / goes.
Yet the question comes, ‘what do I choose?’ Yes, there is pain, there is hurt; but should this lead me to view all with suspicion? Given our hectic work lives, we’ve hardly met each other (we refers to all of us living in the society – almost all of us travel at least 1-2 hours to work). And yet, it was 2 of my society fellows who helped me yesterday. It was my neighbour who I’ve met only twice, who took my friend to the police station to get a clearance for sealing the house on my behalf. Help from all who were not known to me. What goes around, comes / goes.
I was returning from the temple a while ago and got up thinking that my stop was about to come. The conductor thrust the hand of a blind man in my hand and told me to help him cross the road. I did that and after I had put him in the bus he wanted to be in, I realized that I had got down at the wrong stop. As if he had chosen me to help him. That I was talking with my sister and lost on road sense was another facilitating factor. I remembered the “blind walk” and realized that I actually did not have to do anything. I just had to hold his hand and tell him once in a while on the incline / steps etc.
As a survey of my house and information given on phone by my neighbours, society friends and my colleague, I realized that nothing material had actually gone. Apparently the thieves were after cash and valuables. What is valuable? I am actually thinking. My neighbours and friend confirm that the books are there, so are a few pens that I have (though one seems to be missing), so are the other accessories as well as a small collection I have of Scotch. What is of value to me vs. what is of value to another. Is it not a shifting perspective. For the thieves, a Cross pen did not hold any value, nor did the books hold any value; yet perhaps for a behavioural science student, some of the books in my collection may be worth salivating over. So what is value for me – I see that over time for me too, it has shifted.
My first Q&A session with Anirban (a society friend) was, “can you see a black leather bag – yes – open it – done – can you see my certificates – yes – thank you, and please keep this with you”. It taught me as much about my own mental makeup as much about the thieves. My own attachments to my books, to my certificates – and in that I remembered something I’d read, “attachments are attachments – whatever they may be with”. It also does not mean, throwing the baby out with the bathwater – getting rid of things is not the solution. Nor is avoidance.
At the temple, the swamiji was giving a lecture on “Brahma” (the Advaita Vedantin’s perspective on reality) and he put one thing very succinctly. He asked, “If you were to travel from Kanyakumari to Kashmir and know that a dear friend will receive you at Jammu station, then while you start your journey, is your friend near or far from you? Taking that further, if you complete the 3 day journey as most people do, was your neighbour in train near or far from you?” “So what is distance?” “Is that Brahma near or far from you?” “Because I am not focused on so many things in life, I am not in touch with my self. to get to my self, I do not have to do anything, I just have to drop all that I am glued to.”
Indeed – what is distance. My neighbour, who till yesterday, I’d met only once and know as a name and as someone working in another Tata company today is different to me. And nothing seems to have changed – what has changed is something within me. What – I care not at this point of time. While being acutely awareness of that awareness!!!
I’d started off on contradictions. Well, so here they are. I can in some ways relate to the analogy of life being a vast play. And on occasions, I become fascinated with a part, play that and when time comes for change of cast, I resist. Not playing the part is not the answer. And I see merit in what Swami Vivekananda had once said, “Develop within you the power to detach. Work as if your whole life depended on it; put your heart and soul into it; but when the time comes to give it up, pick up and move on.”
Ah – writing helps. A catharsis, and a perspective building for myself. A small note of gratitude to all of you for being there as a clearing ground for my own perspective building…
Love,
P.S.: I get a sense that the mythological story of “samudra manthan” (churning of oceans – and the 10 things that come out subsequently) is about the churning within. As we start on our journey of self development and growth, churning happens and in that churning are produced various things. In the focus on the outcome, I see that I forget the process of churning. In the mythical story, even at the end, one ‘asura’ remained (Rahu-Ketu), and so did the ‘Devs’; but perhaps that is not what the story intends to convey. What does it actually intend to convey – I don’t know yet; perhaps in some time I’ll know the answer…
P.S.: I get a sense that the mythological story of “samudra manthan” (churning of oceans – and the 10 things that come out subsequently) is about the churning within. As we start on our journey of self development and growth, churning happens and in that churning are produced various things. In the focus on the outcome, I see that I forget the process of churning. In the mythical story, even at the end, one ‘asura’ remained (Rahu-Ketu), and so did the ‘Devs’; but perhaps that is not what the story intends to convey. What does it actually intend to convey – I don’t know yet; perhaps in some time I’ll know the answer…
The Daily Muse | Perspectives | 25th Mar. '09
Life is about perspectives and our journey is about expanding those perspectives.
I sit here in the train on way to Delhi enjoying the joys of August Kranti Rajdhani and the fact that there is power to charge my laptop and mobile phone.
Mobile phone – perspective… What about that? Let me tell you a short story.
I left office at around 4, got into the ATM (building next to office) and then got into a cab for Mumbai Central. Half way through I realized that the mobile phone had been left to cool itself over the ATM machine. Stopped by at a PCO, and called up a couple of colleagues at the office number. A few tries later, got in touch with one of them and requested her help. She went to the bank only to be told by a lady there that she will need to prove that I have indeed asked her to get the mobile.
When I call up again (on reaching Central), I get to hear the missing piece of info. and so I call up the lady (God bless her) and tell my story. Kavita (my colleague) goes there again and she gets the phone. Another colleague of mine then sprints from office to Churchgate, takes a fast train and gets to Mumbai Central – at 5.21 (ample time to spare – given that 5.40 is departure). He recognizes me siting with laptop open and communicating with my colleagues over mails.
What happened to me? At the moment of realization of “missing” phone a sense of distress. “Oh my God – how daft and absent minded of me?” A stark contrast to a thought that had come to me as I boarded the cab (outside the bank), “awareness is about being aware that you are aware…” And here I was – aware of my distress. Of my attachment. As realization sunk it, the mind played games – what if, what if not. And some voice also spoke, “so what? Does the world collapse – is your world in that?” I must admit that peace did not come, but a face to face encounter with my own self.
I have a hypothesis which I shared with a friend of mine the other day, “we as much do not accept our superior as much we shirk confronting our inferior”. Being in the moment and aware of it, is oxymoron – a deafening silence. Actually Hindi has a better word, “nistabdh” – I can’t translate it.
Where am I right now? A realization of the game of life and a lesson – that the game goes on. Nothing changes – every moment is a choice. The other day, I was reading a lecture by JK, and after a few lines, I found myself in communion with myself in a deep introspective silence all the way to office (in the morning train). Enquiring from someone, JK asked, (not verbatim) “…so what is there in your self esteem that you hold on to? It is not what we have that we fear or what we don’t have what we fear but the fall that we fear. We are constantly placing ourselves on a pedestal and when the fall happens, we suffer. Is it necessary? Remove the pedestal and you won’t fall. Then you will be able to see the reality as it IS – and when you see yourself the way you are, without judgment or desire, you will find peace. Judge, and peace is not; love and peace is.”
What does it mean – and awareness of the pedestal of “spiritual growth”, the pedestal of “knowledge”, the pedestal of “emotional maturity” – all pedestals. With it comes my judgments – oh my God, “how could I do something like this?” The “Who Me!!! Syndrome”
I see that I have meandered – in between witnessing the farewell exchanges of a family at Borivli station. Back to the phone – actually the story does not matter anymore. I write as I write. Seeing the flow of life; the train chugs along, the moments go by.
I go off to enjoying the journey – what is journey? Suddenly, each word seems to pick on a new meaning and a new context.
हमारे सफर में एक हमसफ़र है
कोई आपने साथ है
कोई एक ऐसी बात है
कोई तो एक राज़ है
उस राज़ की राह में मैं मुसाफिर
कभी खुदा तो कभी काफिर
अपनी ही खोज में खो गया
हिमगिरी की एक बूँद नया
जा रहा हूँ मैं एक पथिक
अपनी ही घटना में हूँ घटित
यह राज़ जो मुझ से छुपाया
ऐ खुदा तू तो निर्दय हुआ
पर जब उसका हल भी तूने बताया
तब बनाया मैंने तुझे खुदा
इस उल्झान में ही मैं बाँध गया
अपने से ही दूर हुआ
मेरा हमसफ़र ही तो है तू
जब अक्ल आई – तो क्या मैं, और क्या तू?
Chalo then – I sign off for now…
I left office at around 4, got into the ATM (building next to office) and then got into a cab for Mumbai Central. Half way through I realized that the mobile phone had been left to cool itself over the ATM machine. Stopped by at a PCO, and called up a couple of colleagues at the office number. A few tries later, got in touch with one of them and requested her help. She went to the bank only to be told by a lady there that she will need to prove that I have indeed asked her to get the mobile.
When I call up again (on reaching Central), I get to hear the missing piece of info. and so I call up the lady (God bless her) and tell my story. Kavita (my colleague) goes there again and she gets the phone. Another colleague of mine then sprints from office to Churchgate, takes a fast train and gets to Mumbai Central – at 5.21 (ample time to spare – given that 5.40 is departure). He recognizes me siting with laptop open and communicating with my colleagues over mails.
What happened to me? At the moment of realization of “missing” phone a sense of distress. “Oh my God – how daft and absent minded of me?” A stark contrast to a thought that had come to me as I boarded the cab (outside the bank), “awareness is about being aware that you are aware…” And here I was – aware of my distress. Of my attachment. As realization sunk it, the mind played games – what if, what if not. And some voice also spoke, “so what? Does the world collapse – is your world in that?” I must admit that peace did not come, but a face to face encounter with my own self.
I have a hypothesis which I shared with a friend of mine the other day, “we as much do not accept our superior as much we shirk confronting our inferior”. Being in the moment and aware of it, is oxymoron – a deafening silence. Actually Hindi has a better word, “nistabdh” – I can’t translate it.
Where am I right now? A realization of the game of life and a lesson – that the game goes on. Nothing changes – every moment is a choice. The other day, I was reading a lecture by JK, and after a few lines, I found myself in communion with myself in a deep introspective silence all the way to office (in the morning train). Enquiring from someone, JK asked, (not verbatim) “…so what is there in your self esteem that you hold on to? It is not what we have that we fear or what we don’t have what we fear but the fall that we fear. We are constantly placing ourselves on a pedestal and when the fall happens, we suffer. Is it necessary? Remove the pedestal and you won’t fall. Then you will be able to see the reality as it IS – and when you see yourself the way you are, without judgment or desire, you will find peace. Judge, and peace is not; love and peace is.”
What does it mean – and awareness of the pedestal of “spiritual growth”, the pedestal of “knowledge”, the pedestal of “emotional maturity” – all pedestals. With it comes my judgments – oh my God, “how could I do something like this?” The “Who Me!!! Syndrome”
I see that I have meandered – in between witnessing the farewell exchanges of a family at Borivli station. Back to the phone – actually the story does not matter anymore. I write as I write. Seeing the flow of life; the train chugs along, the moments go by.
I go off to enjoying the journey – what is journey? Suddenly, each word seems to pick on a new meaning and a new context.
हमारे सफर में एक हमसफ़र है
कोई आपने साथ है
कोई एक ऐसी बात है
कोई तो एक राज़ है
उस राज़ की राह में मैं मुसाफिर
कभी खुदा तो कभी काफिर
अपनी ही खोज में खो गया
हिमगिरी की एक बूँद नया
जा रहा हूँ मैं एक पथिक
अपनी ही घटना में हूँ घटित
यह राज़ जो मुझ से छुपाया
ऐ खुदा तू तो निर्दय हुआ
पर जब उसका हल भी तूने बताया
तब बनाया मैंने तुझे खुदा
इस उल्झान में ही मैं बाँध गया
अपने से ही दूर हुआ
मेरा हमसफ़र ही तो है तू
जब अक्ल आई – तो क्या मैं, और क्या तू?
Chalo then – I sign off for now…
प्रारंभ (The Beginning) | 12th Apr. '09
ॐ विश्वं दर्पणदृश्यमाननगरीतुल्यं निजान्तर्गतं
पश्यन्नात्मनि मायया बहिरिवोदभूतं यथा निद्रया।
यः साक्षात्कुरुते प्रबोधसमये स्वात्मानमेवाद्वयं
तस्मै श्री गुरुमूर्तये नम इदं श्री दक्षिणामूर्तये॥
With the obeisance to Lord Dakshinamurthy who resides within, I begin this blog. Actually, I was never going to write this blog. I do write my journal - almost daily. For me, my journal is a record of the internal events of my life; and where there are external ones, on how they impacted me.
I started writing a journal in 2002. After I finished my first BLHP, I got initiated into writing a journal. So there go all my reflections, internal processes, my dreams, my fantasies, my convictions, in short all that happens to me either because of myself or because of the environment.
Of late, life has taken another turn. I started writing a muse. The other day, I wrote in my journal that I should write a book. A book of my experiences. A name also came, "Experiences with Myself." I did not actually dismiss the idea, but I know that this is not the time. So how do I prepare? I simply decided to share more of what I write.
As I shared a few of my muse with my soul group, Sukhi urged me on to put my writings up on the blog. So here am I, slowly publishing my writings on the blog. I will in due course of time, dig out some more matter and put up online. Of course, some things don't go online - for that you'll have to know me really well!
When we begin any enterprise, we always end up thanking those for being there - who have in their own way made it possible for us to be where we are. And so I would like to remember at this moment: My Guruji, Lord Dakshinamurthy, my parents, my ISABS journey mates (and I'll call all my facilitators as my mates), the souls with me in the "Who Am I", my HR guru Kantha, my soul connections, Sukhi - the soul who urged me to put these online and connect with the universe.
As I write this, I become more clear - I write for myself, for my own learning, for my own clarity. In that quest, if there are others who find a light, or can shine a light for me, our lives would be blessed and enriched.
Much of what I write is about my own frailities and vulnerabilities. I have discovered that in my own vulnerability is my strength - perhaps that will be a muse one day.
This to me now is not a blog - but a personal expression, a platform for the fountain of the inner self, a sticky pad for like souls to congregate and share.
May we all reach our destinies and in the richness of our sharing, fill up each other...
The Daily Muse | Questions for the Day | 2nd Apr. '09
Why do I ask so many questions? Is it inquisitiveness? Or is it simply for my ego to get satisfied that it exists? For after all, unless there is a joy in doing something, why would anyone do it? That I ask questions – too many and too often, means that I get some joy. The other possibility is that I am obsessive compulsive – but would judgment lead to understanding?
Talking about joy – I get joy in doing a thing; I get joy in being with someone. I can either stop at that OR I can ask, “what is it that makes me joyful either with the thing / person / situation?” I see that I end up doing this all too often. “Oh, I like this person; then there is a pause; and then, “but why and what is different here?” Similarly I avoid a few things, a few people. Obviously, I have a block there and unless I become aware of the block, is there freedom for me?” Likewise, if I am not aware of the deeper import behind my likes, would I be free?
So what is this obsession with freedom? Granted that it is fascinating to know a bit more about myself; but does it mean that there be an obsession? Then, am I being “in the moment?” Talking about that, is it necessary to be “in the moment” every time? I ask this for I experience that whenever I find myself not in communion with myself, I get distressed. And then follow all attempts to be in the moment – breathing exercises, watching breath, energy drawing from universe etc. But is that not an obsession unto itself? The obsession to “be in the moment?”
Hey, but hang on, is it not right to pursue your own happiness? Everyone does that. Yes everyone does that, but that cannot be a justification for me to do what everyone does. It is easy to say, “he likes movies, so he goes for it; I like to be in the moment, so I do it.” But then I am doing what someone else is doing – without the application of my own self / my own agency. Then it is his life and not my life. Or is it that one experience of being in the moment creates a desire for it? Just like one taste of Kolkota Roshogulla created a desire for them?
But this scares me, for if I accept it, then, am I not a product of desire? Am I not being driven by it? The desire to “be in the moment”? And by that corollary, I might actually miss being in the moment. I was traveling by train this morning (like I usually do). The train was crowded. Sweat, humidity, heat, crowd all around. And I was irritated, upset. Out went my mind – blame the railways (for poor infrastructure); then it came inside – blame myself (for getting up late); then it decided to be in the moment – “relax Ashish. Observe what are you feeling? Blah. Blah.” And so, here I was, in this packed train, irritated to the core, and attempting self observation. Why – so that I can calm myself. What for? So that I can be in the moment! While actually in that moment, I was there – observing myself too.
Aha – so does that mean, that for me, “being in the moment” has a connotation of pleasure? Is it the pleasure of a previous past experience – like in meditation, in Who Am I, in ISABS lab, in pranayam, in deep introspection, in intense activity etc. And that I try to recreate it? So it is that my “being in the moment” actually is not that, but an attempt at re-creation of a past experience? Which means, it is an attempt to be in “a moment experience sometime which I crave for” So, Mr. Pant, “are you really free?”
Is the desire for being in the moment an escape from the moment? So what does it really mean “to be in the moment?”
Hey – again, you are asking a question. One after the other; and yet another…
Yes, but how does one do enquiry without asking question?
Exactly – but the next question is, “why do you want to do enquiry?”
Simple; so that I can get to the depth of it.
Why?
So that I can really understand?
Why?
So that it will not bother me again later on.
So you don’t want to be bothered?
Yes.
Aha – so that once it does not bother, you can “be with it” – person, event, thing?
Right.
So that means you want to “be in the moment?”
{Silence}
Rrrriiiiigggggtttttt.
Hey – but prior to asking question, was I not being in the moment? What stops me? And in all this who is present? That being who gets joy? Is that me or my ego?
Is this question too a question from me or my ego? I can see myself smiling, as the next question pops up, “When I say “my” it means something apart from me; so then what is my ego?”
Questions, questions and questions JJJ Right now in asking these, I experience being in the moment!!!
Talking about joy – I get joy in doing a thing; I get joy in being with someone. I can either stop at that OR I can ask, “what is it that makes me joyful either with the thing / person / situation?” I see that I end up doing this all too often. “Oh, I like this person; then there is a pause; and then, “but why and what is different here?” Similarly I avoid a few things, a few people. Obviously, I have a block there and unless I become aware of the block, is there freedom for me?” Likewise, if I am not aware of the deeper import behind my likes, would I be free?
So what is this obsession with freedom? Granted that it is fascinating to know a bit more about myself; but does it mean that there be an obsession? Then, am I being “in the moment?” Talking about that, is it necessary to be “in the moment” every time? I ask this for I experience that whenever I find myself not in communion with myself, I get distressed. And then follow all attempts to be in the moment – breathing exercises, watching breath, energy drawing from universe etc. But is that not an obsession unto itself? The obsession to “be in the moment?”
Hey, but hang on, is it not right to pursue your own happiness? Everyone does that. Yes everyone does that, but that cannot be a justification for me to do what everyone does. It is easy to say, “he likes movies, so he goes for it; I like to be in the moment, so I do it.” But then I am doing what someone else is doing – without the application of my own self / my own agency. Then it is his life and not my life. Or is it that one experience of being in the moment creates a desire for it? Just like one taste of Kolkota Roshogulla created a desire for them?
But this scares me, for if I accept it, then, am I not a product of desire? Am I not being driven by it? The desire to “be in the moment”? And by that corollary, I might actually miss being in the moment. I was traveling by train this morning (like I usually do). The train was crowded. Sweat, humidity, heat, crowd all around. And I was irritated, upset. Out went my mind – blame the railways (for poor infrastructure); then it came inside – blame myself (for getting up late); then it decided to be in the moment – “relax Ashish. Observe what are you feeling? Blah. Blah.” And so, here I was, in this packed train, irritated to the core, and attempting self observation. Why – so that I can calm myself. What for? So that I can be in the moment! While actually in that moment, I was there – observing myself too.
Aha – so does that mean, that for me, “being in the moment” has a connotation of pleasure? Is it the pleasure of a previous past experience – like in meditation, in Who Am I, in ISABS lab, in pranayam, in deep introspection, in intense activity etc. And that I try to recreate it? So it is that my “being in the moment” actually is not that, but an attempt at re-creation of a past experience? Which means, it is an attempt to be in “a moment experience sometime which I crave for” So, Mr. Pant, “are you really free?”
Is the desire for being in the moment an escape from the moment? So what does it really mean “to be in the moment?”
Hey – again, you are asking a question. One after the other; and yet another…
Yes, but how does one do enquiry without asking question?
Exactly – but the next question is, “why do you want to do enquiry?”
Simple; so that I can get to the depth of it.
Why?
So that I can really understand?
Why?
So that it will not bother me again later on.
So you don’t want to be bothered?
Yes.
Aha – so that once it does not bother, you can “be with it” – person, event, thing?
Right.
So that means you want to “be in the moment?”
{Silence}
Rrrriiiiigggggtttttt.
Hey – but prior to asking question, was I not being in the moment? What stops me? And in all this who is present? That being who gets joy? Is that me or my ego?
Is this question too a question from me or my ego? I can see myself smiling, as the next question pops up, “When I say “my” it means something apart from me; so then what is my ego?”
Questions, questions and questions JJJ Right now in asking these, I experience being in the moment!!!
The Daily Muse | Aspects of Self | 1st Apr. '09
Why do we live in this world? What for? What is the reason of our existence? To get to our higher selves: ah, clichéd; as also is the other answer, the cosmic karmic law.
Why indeed? There is the insistence of a child for an answer from the mother – a question to which the mother has no response. For the only answer is in the child’s growth – he/she learns some things only as the child grows up, and no rational answer can ever satisfy the query.
Talking about queries and answers, is there ever any answer at all? I had asked this question before. Is it to “know” the answers? Can one really “know” something? Is “knowing” a function of time? What does it mean when we say, “I know XYZ – a person or a thing”? The question arises, “know when?” Having known once, is the “knowing” sufficient?
We say that change is constant and that the only constant is change. In Euclidean geometry, we would call this statement an axiom. If that be so, then what I know one moment is not the same the next moment – possibly not. Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle demonstrates this for quantum particles. And what is thought after all – is it not a quanta?
So having known, do I know for ever? Perhaps not. Then is it that we have to “know” over and over again? To discover over and over again – is that what life is about? But what does the word “know” mean? I am struggling for an answer. Actually, having asked all these questions, I don’t feel like knowing the answer.
Does it matter that I know something? For if it changes the next moment, of what use is my knowing it in this moment? How many things and how much can I then really know? I would rather prefer to just be.
Ah, so you talk about “being”? “Being” what? Is it important to put the “what” after “Being”? Is not being, simply that – being? However, would just “being” not lead to inactivity (tamas)?
But of what use is being, if there is no “doing”? So the next question is, “why is action so important?” Is it required to fill myself up – so as to avoid myself? For what purpose?
“Knowing” – “Doing” – “Being” – the three positions of self…
Coming back to the original question, perhaps a better question would be, “where does this question come from?”
Why indeed? There is the insistence of a child for an answer from the mother – a question to which the mother has no response. For the only answer is in the child’s growth – he/she learns some things only as the child grows up, and no rational answer can ever satisfy the query.
Talking about queries and answers, is there ever any answer at all? I had asked this question before. Is it to “know” the answers? Can one really “know” something? Is “knowing” a function of time? What does it mean when we say, “I know XYZ – a person or a thing”? The question arises, “know when?” Having known once, is the “knowing” sufficient?
We say that change is constant and that the only constant is change. In Euclidean geometry, we would call this statement an axiom. If that be so, then what I know one moment is not the same the next moment – possibly not. Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle demonstrates this for quantum particles. And what is thought after all – is it not a quanta?
So having known, do I know for ever? Perhaps not. Then is it that we have to “know” over and over again? To discover over and over again – is that what life is about? But what does the word “know” mean? I am struggling for an answer. Actually, having asked all these questions, I don’t feel like knowing the answer.
Does it matter that I know something? For if it changes the next moment, of what use is my knowing it in this moment? How many things and how much can I then really know? I would rather prefer to just be.
Ah, so you talk about “being”? “Being” what? Is it important to put the “what” after “Being”? Is not being, simply that – being? However, would just “being” not lead to inactivity (tamas)?
But of what use is being, if there is no “doing”? So the next question is, “why is action so important?” Is it required to fill myself up – so as to avoid myself? For what purpose?
“Knowing” – “Doing” – “Being” – the three positions of self…
Coming back to the original question, perhaps a better question would be, “where does this question come from?”
The Daily Muse | Conversation on a Mirror | 30th Mar. '09
I look different. And that puzzles me. Actually, why the heck does that bother me? I reached office and was in front of the mirror – and lo, yes, I do look different.
What bothers me is that I had a neutral face in the mirror. Earlier on, I would either be smiling or some emotion would get reflected in the mirror. This time, there is no emotion. And yet, it is not even emotionless state too.
So what does it mean to face up to oneself? Who do you actually look into in the mirror? When I see myself in the mirror, who do I see? Is it me? Who is that person in the mirror that I see? And flip that question back, who is it then who stands in front of the mirror; and also sees the person in the mirror?
Physics tells me that light is both matter and wave. And the image in the mirror is a function of total internal reflection of light waves. While that explains the “image” that I see in the mirror, it does not answer my question, “who” do I see in the mirror? Now how do I know I see it? Because I experience it; and apart from the fact of seeing (a direct perception proof), I have associated feelings within.
But taking that line of logic further, we even see a mirage in a desert. We see water where none exists. The property of light waves getting totally internally reflected explains the image, but do not show the truth. So, it follows that not all that the light waves may show me the real truth. The question then is, “is what I see in the mirror, real or unreal?”
Coming back to the question of “who do I see in the mirror”, we can then explore the two answers that come to me right now: One, that there is someone out there who I see; Two, there is an image that I see. If we accept the former, then it follows that there is consciousness. Going by what we explore in the earlier paragraph, we can only be tentative about the first answer viz. there is someone out there who I see. Secondly, we have no awareness of any consciousness of the other in front of us (unlike when we meet a friend). So I leave this line of logic (rejecting it) and go to the next possible answer, “I see an image.”
Now, if I see an image, then either the person in front of the mirror is an image too (if we accept that what the mirror shows is true) or that or that it is only an apparent reality. Given that a mirage too is a function of the same phenomenon that mirror is, we can not be sure of the 100% truth of what the mirror shows. Thus, on this side of the mirror is not an image and that I who stand in front of the mirror is different from the image.
But, if that is so, then what I see in front of the mirror is only apparent. If that be so, why does it evoke feelings in me? Why does it evoke thoughts in me? This then means that the thoughts and feelings are a function of something within me and not what is there outside. Taking this at a generic level, what I see outside is actually what I am inside. This to me seems like a scientific proof (QED types). However, this poses a problem for me if I have to live my life.
Does that mean there is no conflict in the world outside; that there is no dispute, no crime, nothing that I find abhorrent? For I only see what is inside of me? If I accept the proof above, then the answer is a no. Which goes contradictory to my experience; but then how does one define, “my experience?” We will delve into that question later – at some other time. If I do not accept the proof above, in order to accept the reality of the not to pleasant aspects of life, then I negate my own existence (that is where our enquiry started off from).
So now you see, I am stuck. A colleague of mine was curious and she read this. She has this question, “Why did you think this? How did this thought come?” Actually, it helps. You see, the fact that I thought this, means that there is a being who think and feels. And that means there is consciousness (this is an assumption I make that needs to be tested). But that does not still answer the basic question and the paradox. Either ways, I am stuck for a definitive answer.
Indian philosophical schools (especially Advaita Vendanta) would solve this problem by the use of the word “maya” (neither real nor unreal), but that is a “satisfactory answer”. As per Advaita Vedanta thought, “maya” does not mean “illusion” as most people understand it. It means that a subject of enquiry is “neither real nor unreal at all moments of time”. Basically, something on which nothing “definitive” can be said. It is not the “definitive answer” which is what I seek. Or is the quest itself flawed from the beginning – for there is a search for a definitive answer of the world that exists and yet does not exist. For if the world is a mirror, then the quest could either be directed towards understanding the world; alternately, it could be directed to understanding the self.
With that I sign off for now. The task ahead is to study a few texts and check out. And with another question, “then, is there something definitive that we can talk about our self?”
What bothers me is that I had a neutral face in the mirror. Earlier on, I would either be smiling or some emotion would get reflected in the mirror. This time, there is no emotion. And yet, it is not even emotionless state too.
So what does it mean to face up to oneself? Who do you actually look into in the mirror? When I see myself in the mirror, who do I see? Is it me? Who is that person in the mirror that I see? And flip that question back, who is it then who stands in front of the mirror; and also sees the person in the mirror?
Physics tells me that light is both matter and wave. And the image in the mirror is a function of total internal reflection of light waves. While that explains the “image” that I see in the mirror, it does not answer my question, “who” do I see in the mirror? Now how do I know I see it? Because I experience it; and apart from the fact of seeing (a direct perception proof), I have associated feelings within.
But taking that line of logic further, we even see a mirage in a desert. We see water where none exists. The property of light waves getting totally internally reflected explains the image, but do not show the truth. So, it follows that not all that the light waves may show me the real truth. The question then is, “is what I see in the mirror, real or unreal?”
Coming back to the question of “who do I see in the mirror”, we can then explore the two answers that come to me right now: One, that there is someone out there who I see; Two, there is an image that I see. If we accept the former, then it follows that there is consciousness. Going by what we explore in the earlier paragraph, we can only be tentative about the first answer viz. there is someone out there who I see. Secondly, we have no awareness of any consciousness of the other in front of us (unlike when we meet a friend). So I leave this line of logic (rejecting it) and go to the next possible answer, “I see an image.”
Now, if I see an image, then either the person in front of the mirror is an image too (if we accept that what the mirror shows is true) or that or that it is only an apparent reality. Given that a mirage too is a function of the same phenomenon that mirror is, we can not be sure of the 100% truth of what the mirror shows. Thus, on this side of the mirror is not an image and that I who stand in front of the mirror is different from the image.
But, if that is so, then what I see in front of the mirror is only apparent. If that be so, why does it evoke feelings in me? Why does it evoke thoughts in me? This then means that the thoughts and feelings are a function of something within me and not what is there outside. Taking this at a generic level, what I see outside is actually what I am inside. This to me seems like a scientific proof (QED types). However, this poses a problem for me if I have to live my life.
Does that mean there is no conflict in the world outside; that there is no dispute, no crime, nothing that I find abhorrent? For I only see what is inside of me? If I accept the proof above, then the answer is a no. Which goes contradictory to my experience; but then how does one define, “my experience?” We will delve into that question later – at some other time. If I do not accept the proof above, in order to accept the reality of the not to pleasant aspects of life, then I negate my own existence (that is where our enquiry started off from).
So now you see, I am stuck. A colleague of mine was curious and she read this. She has this question, “Why did you think this? How did this thought come?” Actually, it helps. You see, the fact that I thought this, means that there is a being who think and feels. And that means there is consciousness (this is an assumption I make that needs to be tested). But that does not still answer the basic question and the paradox. Either ways, I am stuck for a definitive answer.
Indian philosophical schools (especially Advaita Vendanta) would solve this problem by the use of the word “maya” (neither real nor unreal), but that is a “satisfactory answer”. As per Advaita Vedanta thought, “maya” does not mean “illusion” as most people understand it. It means that a subject of enquiry is “neither real nor unreal at all moments of time”. Basically, something on which nothing “definitive” can be said. It is not the “definitive answer” which is what I seek. Or is the quest itself flawed from the beginning – for there is a search for a definitive answer of the world that exists and yet does not exist. For if the world is a mirror, then the quest could either be directed towards understanding the world; alternately, it could be directed to understanding the self.
With that I sign off for now. The task ahead is to study a few texts and check out. And with another question, “then, is there something definitive that we can talk about our self?”
The Daily Muse | Questions and Issues | 29th Mar. '09
Dusk time is always a good time – to be with yourself. In the stillness between the day and night, is an inviting and haunting energy; a radiance that speaks of the reality of life – neither day nor night. As in Hindi, “na to Prakash aur na hi Tamas.” (न तो प्रकाश और न ही तामस). It occurred to me that I could do with some writing. A few thoughts I pen down – from my journal (this morning), with whatever changes of this moment.
{After writing half of the stuff below, I got back up again – since I am mailing this to many, the “structure” freak in me wants to put a few words: These are my thoughts as they come in the moment. And most of them will be questions. I like to meditate on them and at the right moment, I will understand it. I have slowly moved to a view in life that asking the right question is most important. And at this phase of life, I am see myself preparing to ask the right questions. I do not look forward to any appreciation (and equally disgust) – but I do look forward to your sharing which can help me enrich not just my own understanding of an issue, but also myself and the you with me. These then are what I can say, “Experiences of myself”.}
I have a lovely mind. A beautiful instrument – that I am slowly learning to respect and understand. As if through a key hole, I have got a preview. The word that came up this morning during prayers was “addiction.” So what is addiction? Remembered what I’d read what JK had to say somewhere on a related issue. So what is my addiction? And in that what is my “avoidance?” The solitude and quiet, the “pranayam” and prayers, the peace of silence and stillness – all are the desires. And anything that disturbs it is to be shunned – be they people, events, objects and life. Life – but what is life? Is it not about people and events and the meanings they make out of it, the causality they ascribe, the web of relationships they make and relate? Is it not so?
But talking of addiction… So is addiction to desire for “peaceful mind” better than say an addiction to desire for alcohol”? Addiction remains. Save that in one case it is “socially desirable” (as also “personally desired” and in the “laukik” (behavioural world – la vie quotidian) does not cause stress, tension and disharmony while in the latter it perhaps does (if left unchallenged and unbridled). But if I study Yudhishthira’s life, then even unbridled “dharma” (धर्मं) lead to “anarth” (moral destruction) अनर्थ. Coming back – if both are addicted, is there any true “liberation”? Big words – liberation…
So is that why Maharaji (my Guruji) and all say Vedantins that first we have to conquer inner evil by goodness (let the latter replace the former) and then later on let go of goodness also? Ah, the desire for merit and the feeling of, “I – a big I am worthy of merit!” How we fool ourselves in the name of outer world, whereas it serves my own inner function and need. Does that mean that I let go of goodness and all prayers and meditations? Well, depends on the stage of life I am in. And each individual (each one of us) knows where we are. Till the fruit is ripe, it needs all nurture and care and once ready, the gardener lets go – the fruit drops on its own. So is the case with our own selves I suppose. Till such time, I feel the need, I have to tend to it – with goodness, working on my inferior and taking inspiration from my own superior. And the day, I am ready, I will get the inner calling – to drop that.
Perhaps this is why “dharma” is the most difficult subject in Indian Philosophy and all treatises go into it. For it is neither collective (in a legal – jurisprudence manner) nor is it personal (in a strict Judeo-Christian tradition); yet is both at the same time. I guess a discussion on that is for another day and moment.
It is an odd feeling to feel as if there is someone (who is you only) watching over your head as you write – I feel it right now. As if I’m being watched by myself? Is that what is called the “saakshi” साक्षी (witness) self?
I am also learning that perhaps there are no “answers” at all. PERHAPS being the operative word. I am not sure yet. For the more I ask, the more questions come – one after the other in their own fashion. And if I look at it, in most cases, I don’t get / have an answer. Meditation / Contemplation on the question stills it. And there is no further need for asking that question. Some quiet comes – I don’t know what as yet. A potential area for research! For if these are experiences of many, then the whole education should be about developing the faculty to think, ask and ponder. Are there ever really any answers – and I ask this in the context of the fundamental “issues” in life? Then I appreciate better what Swami Vivekananda said about the purpose of education viz. ‘to help manifest the knowledge already inherent in man’. Is it that while all thoughts are there, they strike you and become pertinent to you (and therefore you appreciate it) only when you are ready, as in, “when the disciple is ready, the Buddha appears?” Coming back to questions and answers, is it that we are afraid of asking the real questions? For it might expose to us the vulnerability of “no answer.” And left floundering – coz there will be no closure (aha – the desire for an INTJ like me).
Just like I am right now with a thought, “If I ‘get’ liberated (an oxymoron), then what will life be; what will I have to do and not do?” Nothing and yet everything…
So its of a question of what changes? Does the world – the people and events – change? Or only I change? If we accept that the world changes, then the whole concept of inner divinity falls flat on its face and goes contrary to the experience of the self truth of “I”. However, a greater problem arises if I say that “I” change – for if I can change now, I can change later too. And if I change, then the truth of the unchangeable “I” is contradictory. Or is it that we do our roles and pay out our karmas with that understanding (of our roles and self identity – as defined in a Ericksonian way)?
I am aware that some Indian philosophical schools have reconciled this issue by giving talking of the “witness I” and the “ego I”. But I will have to find out more about this – another area open for enquiry for me. Epistemology has its own challenges; and I suspect the biggest challenge is to find logic and rationale for the experience. The biggest and the most undeniable truth is of experience. But all metaphysical experiences may not give a logical rationale answer (which the system of epistemology) demands – for its own sake and for its propagation.
The next topic is “Mine vs. Not Mine”. Actually, I am a shifty writer – moving from an issue to another and then linking them (and many a time not). I write for me and not for you, so coming back to this topic, the question is, “what is ‘mine’?” Where does this question come from? Well, from the recent robbery attempt and the break-in at my house. Eventually, the guys got nothing of what they wanted and left {I’ve written elsewhere on the word ‘valuable’ – in my previous musing – will forward if you express interest}. While they have gone, I am left with a realization of my attachments and my questions. I am glad to be able to see my attachments – and more importantly, not condemn them. For in condemnation and the “shoulds” of life I invalidate the truth of the moment and of the experience – in that I superficially gloss over it, digging the attachment even deeper (as if pushing it into the recess of the unconscious and making it stronger).
None of the stuff I have in my house was mine at some point of time in the past – nor will it be with me for ever in the future. Each item has its own life. Now all this bit – I’m aware of at a logical level? At another level, the question is, ‘then what is mine?’ Asked differently, “am I actually the owner?” Or is it that I am a custodian (like Gandhi used to say)? If so, then the question is, “of and for whom?” Where does this attachment come from? And the feeling of possessiveness that comes with the attachment? Yes, at one level it all is mine – at another, nothing is. I could not prevent the break-in, but nothing was taken away. So who saved it? Questions that deserve an answer; or should I say, “issues” that deserve a “question”? :-) :-) :-)
{After writing half of the stuff below, I got back up again – since I am mailing this to many, the “structure” freak in me wants to put a few words: These are my thoughts as they come in the moment. And most of them will be questions. I like to meditate on them and at the right moment, I will understand it. I have slowly moved to a view in life that asking the right question is most important. And at this phase of life, I am see myself preparing to ask the right questions. I do not look forward to any appreciation (and equally disgust) – but I do look forward to your sharing which can help me enrich not just my own understanding of an issue, but also myself and the you with me. These then are what I can say, “Experiences of myself”.}
I have a lovely mind. A beautiful instrument – that I am slowly learning to respect and understand. As if through a key hole, I have got a preview. The word that came up this morning during prayers was “addiction.” So what is addiction? Remembered what I’d read what JK had to say somewhere on a related issue. So what is my addiction? And in that what is my “avoidance?” The solitude and quiet, the “pranayam” and prayers, the peace of silence and stillness – all are the desires. And anything that disturbs it is to be shunned – be they people, events, objects and life. Life – but what is life? Is it not about people and events and the meanings they make out of it, the causality they ascribe, the web of relationships they make and relate? Is it not so?
But talking of addiction… So is addiction to desire for “peaceful mind” better than say an addiction to desire for alcohol”? Addiction remains. Save that in one case it is “socially desirable” (as also “personally desired” and in the “laukik” (behavioural world – la vie quotidian) does not cause stress, tension and disharmony while in the latter it perhaps does (if left unchallenged and unbridled). But if I study Yudhishthira’s life, then even unbridled “dharma” (धर्मं) lead to “anarth” (moral destruction) अनर्थ. Coming back – if both are addicted, is there any true “liberation”? Big words – liberation…
So is that why Maharaji (my Guruji) and all say Vedantins that first we have to conquer inner evil by goodness (let the latter replace the former) and then later on let go of goodness also? Ah, the desire for merit and the feeling of, “I – a big I am worthy of merit!” How we fool ourselves in the name of outer world, whereas it serves my own inner function and need. Does that mean that I let go of goodness and all prayers and meditations? Well, depends on the stage of life I am in. And each individual (each one of us) knows where we are. Till the fruit is ripe, it needs all nurture and care and once ready, the gardener lets go – the fruit drops on its own. So is the case with our own selves I suppose. Till such time, I feel the need, I have to tend to it – with goodness, working on my inferior and taking inspiration from my own superior. And the day, I am ready, I will get the inner calling – to drop that.
Perhaps this is why “dharma” is the most difficult subject in Indian Philosophy and all treatises go into it. For it is neither collective (in a legal – jurisprudence manner) nor is it personal (in a strict Judeo-Christian tradition); yet is both at the same time. I guess a discussion on that is for another day and moment.
It is an odd feeling to feel as if there is someone (who is you only) watching over your head as you write – I feel it right now. As if I’m being watched by myself? Is that what is called the “saakshi” साक्षी (witness) self?
I am also learning that perhaps there are no “answers” at all. PERHAPS being the operative word. I am not sure yet. For the more I ask, the more questions come – one after the other in their own fashion. And if I look at it, in most cases, I don’t get / have an answer. Meditation / Contemplation on the question stills it. And there is no further need for asking that question. Some quiet comes – I don’t know what as yet. A potential area for research! For if these are experiences of many, then the whole education should be about developing the faculty to think, ask and ponder. Are there ever really any answers – and I ask this in the context of the fundamental “issues” in life? Then I appreciate better what Swami Vivekananda said about the purpose of education viz. ‘to help manifest the knowledge already inherent in man’. Is it that while all thoughts are there, they strike you and become pertinent to you (and therefore you appreciate it) only when you are ready, as in, “when the disciple is ready, the Buddha appears?” Coming back to questions and answers, is it that we are afraid of asking the real questions? For it might expose to us the vulnerability of “no answer.” And left floundering – coz there will be no closure (aha – the desire for an INTJ like me).
Just like I am right now with a thought, “If I ‘get’ liberated (an oxymoron), then what will life be; what will I have to do and not do?” Nothing and yet everything…
So its of a question of what changes? Does the world – the people and events – change? Or only I change? If we accept that the world changes, then the whole concept of inner divinity falls flat on its face and goes contrary to the experience of the self truth of “I”. However, a greater problem arises if I say that “I” change – for if I can change now, I can change later too. And if I change, then the truth of the unchangeable “I” is contradictory. Or is it that we do our roles and pay out our karmas with that understanding (of our roles and self identity – as defined in a Ericksonian way)?
I am aware that some Indian philosophical schools have reconciled this issue by giving talking of the “witness I” and the “ego I”. But I will have to find out more about this – another area open for enquiry for me. Epistemology has its own challenges; and I suspect the biggest challenge is to find logic and rationale for the experience. The biggest and the most undeniable truth is of experience. But all metaphysical experiences may not give a logical rationale answer (which the system of epistemology) demands – for its own sake and for its propagation.
The next topic is “Mine vs. Not Mine”. Actually, I am a shifty writer – moving from an issue to another and then linking them (and many a time not). I write for me and not for you, so coming back to this topic, the question is, “what is ‘mine’?” Where does this question come from? Well, from the recent robbery attempt and the break-in at my house. Eventually, the guys got nothing of what they wanted and left {I’ve written elsewhere on the word ‘valuable’ – in my previous musing – will forward if you express interest}. While they have gone, I am left with a realization of my attachments and my questions. I am glad to be able to see my attachments – and more importantly, not condemn them. For in condemnation and the “shoulds” of life I invalidate the truth of the moment and of the experience – in that I superficially gloss over it, digging the attachment even deeper (as if pushing it into the recess of the unconscious and making it stronger).
None of the stuff I have in my house was mine at some point of time in the past – nor will it be with me for ever in the future. Each item has its own life. Now all this bit – I’m aware of at a logical level? At another level, the question is, ‘then what is mine?’ Asked differently, “am I actually the owner?” Or is it that I am a custodian (like Gandhi used to say)? If so, then the question is, “of and for whom?” Where does this attachment come from? And the feeling of possessiveness that comes with the attachment? Yes, at one level it all is mine – at another, nothing is. I could not prevent the break-in, but nothing was taken away. So who saved it? Questions that deserve an answer; or should I say, “issues” that deserve a “question”? :-) :-) :-)
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